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A Valentines rant on love, romance and choosing a partner.

This is a subject close to my heart. First of all. Fuck valentines day and it’s mass-consumerist bullshit! If you’re into it that’s absolutely fine. This article might not be for you though.

Personally I want romance spontaneously. Intimate moments like making me tea in the morning, jumping my bones when I’m doing the washing up and sending random ferret memes so I know I’m thought of. Maybe the odd bunch of flowers (though pizza goes down better). If the only romance you get or give is once a year because the shops pressure you into it; then what the actual fuck are you doing?! Some people aren’t romantic, maybe valentines day is the only time you feel like doing so. If so fair enough I guess. Each to their own.

If you’re single good for you. Do not settle for less just because this day of the year (maybe) makes you feel like an outcast. I have thrown many an anti-valentines party, some bitter some not. If you want some, I will gladly offer ideas.

Much like many high Street posters and websites. Some witches will be pushing love spells and tarot readings at this time of year. Not me my darlings, oh no. I’m all about the self love. First of all trying; to affect a person’s free will is never, ever a good idea why would you want someone that didn’t choose you. There are some spells which might be more appropriate.

Me, myself and I

Valentines day falls just after Imbolc, where we are beginning to look ahead for spring, planting ideas and goals for the year ahead. Maybe this does involve seeking or improving a relationship for you. Its a good time for divination and working out exactly what you want. My advice is always ‘you get what you settle for’ too often we compromise our standards because of the potential we see. Or because 1 positive thing seems so awesome we give up seeking all the things you also want.

If you create the time to think about what’s important to you (in relation to anything not just relationships) it is easier to ask for it. You could create a ritual and ask for divine assistance. Do remember to be careful what you wish for. Be specific and clear. (you can read more on that Here) this will also allow you to walk away from things that don’t fit your needs with certainty.

Another point I’d like to make, for anyone that needs to hear it right now…if a relationship is really hard in the beginning (and I speak from personal experience here), it’s unlikely to get any easier. How much of yourself are you willing to give up? Is it worth it? Are you trying to force something that isn’t meant for you? If so, save yourself more hurt in the long run now.

I am not anti-relationships. I am definately not anti-romance but I am anti- doing shit because you feel like you should especially if it doesn’t bring you joy. Life is to short for doing shit because you ‘should’. Be brave my darlings. Be clear about what you want and don’t want in life and the universe will reward you. There is nothing another person can give that you can’t give yourself (even that๐Ÿ˜‰) and you don’t have to settle for anything less than awesome. By holding space for the wrong person, you will stop yourself from finding the right one, a lesson I learnt the hard way.

I have been madly in love and it was addictive. The passion, the excitement… The drama, the heartache. I will not be doing that again. I wanted a healthy love a respectful love with a person who shared my goals and morals (and is tall, tall is important) As soon as I recognised what it was I valued, I was able to manifest it. There is so much love available. I will take it without the madness thank you.

Cute doggo wasnt on the list but she helps.

Be brave my darlings. Don’t settle. You only get this life and only you can create the one you deserve.

Peace out witches!

Much love.

Kate xxx